A lot has gone on since my last posting so I’m going to make some tea and then briefly tell you about it.
First would be work. I have three jobs necessitated by the full time one paying so little. The good news, I guess, is that I work four 10-hour days, leaving me time to work somewhere else in the off time. I have four more years before I can collect my maximum Social Security so I’m using the time to get out of debt, put money aside, and mostly keep up with my living expenses. Thus, one full time and two part time jobs. It tends to suck the life out of me, working like this, and I have to add two hours of travel daily to those 10 hours. I get home by 9:00 PM and want to do nothing. Just veg.
My retirement plan definitely did not include divorce but I’ve managed to stay financially afloat, with the help of my son. We’re getting ready to have a huge yard sale so I can finally get rid of a lot of crap that has been hanging around for many years. When I’m done, I hope to see only necessities, which will of course include books, craft supplies, and more books!
Next, my husband filed for divorce and I just opened the notice today. I’ve been carrying it around unopened for about a month; couldn’t open it. Sad, scared, angry….you name it, I feel it, or felt it. It came about a month before our 35th anniversary, which just passed. But the good news is that I’m OK, pretty much. I’ll be honest and tell you that there was a brief pain in my heart. After all, I’ve known the man since I was 21. But, time has dulled the ache, the tears are mostly over, and I’m fine without him. Cheers for me!! Let the “other woman” deal with his habits now, cause he hasn’t changed and is doing his usual, out running around all the time. So, I’m free and happy to be!
I’ve also been exploring online dating, not my favorite thing, but when all I do is work, how else would I meet someone? I’m not quite sure what I’m looking for, meaning do I ever want to marry again? I guess I’ll see how it goes and who does the asking. The funny thing is that the guys look so old to me, but who am I kidding? I’m the same age!! I’ve met some nice but dull guys, written to a bunch, had a lot of phishing since my age group is targeted as old, desperate, and stupid, (do I want to send them money for whatever scheme they have in mind? HA!) and surprisingly have had a lot of really young guys wanting me to fulfill their sexual fantasies of young guy-older woman. Dare I say Mrs. Robinson? But I look at my 65 year old self and say NAH to that. Really not interested. I recently had a guy start writing to me and after several weeks of messages that sounded really promising, he decided that I live too far and called it off before we met in person. This was the first time I saw any possibilities but in typical guy fashion, he would have just disappeared with no notice but I called him on it and at least got a message saying “not going to work”. But, did I tell you that my sister met a great guy online, after several years of looking, and just set the wedding date! Happy for her.
The next step will be changing jobs to one that pays better so I can work less, join the local Y and begin working out and swimming, save for a cruise to Italy (God knows when I’ll have saved enough for that!) and move onward and upward. Since I have to work four more years until I’m 70, I want to get the most out of it. Starting over has been hard, but not impossible, and I’m proud of myself for staying the course. I’ve gone through a lot since 2008 and will surely go through more, but I’m up for the challenge.
Until next time!